"Managing Sexpectations" pt.2

"Not tonight babe", "I'm not in the mood", "I'm too tired".....But I'm in the mood now!! 😭This is the last thing any man wants to hear but somehow, I have a feeling I’m not the only one that has come up against these responses before settling down for the night.

Whether you want to hear it or not, these are all legitimate reasons for not wanting to have sex. The lifestyle you lead, the children you have, the job you do, are all contributing factors. In the name of managing each other's expectations (spontaneous moments aside), I would advise starting the conversation about sex as early in the day as possible. Mind you, this conversation doesn't just involve words, it involves action. Foreplay should play a part in the build-up also. Send a flirty text during the day, a sensual massage or simply cooking her a romantic meal. Get creative...she's worth it! Whereas us guys can switch it on at the drop of a hat, some women need a little more time to warm up. Even after having a conversation about sex earlier than usual, it is no guarantee you’ll be having sex at the end of it. That is why they say marriage is about compromise. You’ll ultimately have to find that middle ground the works for both of you but provided you are actually having a conversation about it, you're off to a good start!