"Be Intentional"

"Be intentional about what exactly?" I hear you ask. Be intentional about putting in the work. The fight against complacency in marriage is definitely a real one and one we often lose to. I can definitely attest to this fact. Sometimes, the monotony of everyday life can really zap away the attention, energy and focus one needs to sustain that happily ever after but it cannot be the excuse forever. Speaking from a guys perspective, I believe it's on us men to continue the chase, even though we already won the prize. It helps to keep that love tank full! And you know what they say, "Happy wife, happy life" right? I believe there to be truth in that statement but you've got to be intentional about the effort required to keep this mantra alive.

That quality time she craves for - find it. That trashy program she continuously talks about - watch it. That business idea that mentioned once upon a time - cultivate it. These seemingly small gestures add up and help to keep the good ship "Till death do us part" afloat....but you've got to be intentional about it. We can't have that boat start to take on water and start to sink deeper into that sea of despair. No. We can't have that. Ladies, your not getting off that easy, you've got work to do as well! Firstly, I know you do a lot for us men and we are thankful. I would like to take this opportunity to suggest that you be attentive to the needs of your husband. He may not say much at times but when he does, please, be intentional about listening to what he has to say and catering to his needs also. That's all we ask. Doesn't take much to please us simple cave men. Now imagine a relationship where both parties are trying please each other? That, my friends, is one happy marriage and one that will surely stand the test of time but remember - you must be....? God bless you.